HOW I WORK
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I work online over zoom (or on the phone if you prefer)
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Sessions are 50 or 75 minutes long (usually 75 for couples)
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Depending on your circumstances I'd expect us to work together for at least 6 sessions, on a weekly basis
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I try to be accomodating of irregular work patterns - please get in touch if you can't make a fixed time each week.
MY THERAPEUTIC APPROACH
Having happy relationships and a healthy sex life is so important, and yet it can be so hard to talk openly about, even in therapy! I bring a warm and informal atmosphere to help us get stuck in with ease.
I have over 5 years experience working with themes like desire discrepancy between partners, communication difficulties, and attachment issues to name a few. As a psychosexual therapist I'm trained to support with challenges in sexual function like erection problems, premature ejaculation, vaginismus and difficulties with orgasms.
I believe that your sex life is a mirror for your relationship, and by working on it together, rather than seeing it as one partner’s ‘problem’ you can build a strong, enduring, and enjoyable relationship into the future.
I take a pluralist approach which means I adapt the way I work to meet the client in front of me. My influences include person-centred counselling, CBT, mindfulness/Buddhist teachings, parts work, and life coaching.
I have training and lived experience with kink/BDSM, Consensual Non-Monogamy, Trans/Non-Binary Identities and Sex Positive Culture.
DIVERSITY AND INCLUSION
I identify as queer, non-binary, non-monogamous, and kinky. My practice is queer friendly, trans-inclusive, and feminist. I'm in an ongoing process of learning about race through reading and study groups. I'm understanding and supportive of sexual diversity, including kink, non-monogamy, queerness, and sex-positivity. I am equally supportive of people's choice to adopt more traditional relationship structures.
In my practice I think carefully about how societal power structures are recreated within relationships. I see acknowledging and (in couples work) seeking to balance the power arising through systems of oppression as a key part of my work.